We never have the experience of others seeing us... The two-part remedy for shyness is:
from the first moment of meditation we have a chance to question our assumptions - or to follow them blindly into the confusion they generate
Guilt tells you what you are, regret is a message to act upon
Blame, guilt - or regret? Blame: a story told by ego to polish its virtue.
FRIEND - someone who nurtures your ego, i.e. an enemy. ENEMY - someone who threatens your ego, a true friend. THINKING...
My Midas touch: everything I see turns to thought
Be careful about equating the ability to calm thinking with being a Buddhist master. How much freedom from thinking do we need, to reach the jewel of understanding which then makes thinking not a problem? We could spend years manipulating our mind into thought-free states unnecessarily.
In our own lives we can easily find things we thought were true which we subsequently think not to be true. So our pursuit of the truth about self can not depend upon thinking. We need another way of knowing, one more direct than our thinking.
Life is not where you think it is, The stories you act are your dreams... We're hooked on this dream, on when it brings us pleasure, when pain, when we lose or gain - we devise manipulations to skew it towards greater pleasure and gain, less loss and pain. This is the story of our life.
we stare at the bars, missing the sky...